Mother Goose

Are you looking for guidance with life's problems? We are launching our very own 'Mother Goose', an Agony Aunt scheme to try and provide help and advice on anything we can, whether that's on relationships, health, loneliness, education, feuds, or any other dilemma you have. All questions sent are completely confidential

Use our form to anonymously send a message to our Aston Students' Union Mother Goose, replies will appear on this page!

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"I'm so stressed about exams. How shall I revise and manage my time? I'm really struggling to work at home."

Thank you for your question!

Exam period can be a very stressful and overwhelming time, but there are lots of things you can do to manage your time, get organised, and look after yourself too. We have created a Daily Planner to help students get organised during exams, where you can balance your work and personal life! You can view this here

It’s important to try different ways of revising to find the technique that’s right for you. This could be using mind maps, cue cards, posters, or even using a whiteboard to write things out to your hearts content. Another good technique is to come up with your own questions so you can answer multiple tings about your work and get your friends and family to question you on these. If you are really struggling, you can contact the ARC or get in touch with the Learning and Development Centre at the library. They host a variety of workshops to help you with your revision. As for your study space, try and change it up every week so you’re not in the same room/environment. This change in scenery can actually beneficial and help you to revise better.

Make sure you schedule in several breaks throughout the day. Having breaks is so important, you need to allow your brain time to absorb the information and to stop you from burning out. Even if it’s just for 15 minutes every hour or so, get away from your working space and do something you enjoy. Also, ensure you’re eating well and getting enough sleep. Getting decent sleep is SO important, as sleep deprivation won’t do you any favours and will actually hinder your ability to retain information. If you’re struggling to fall asleep, have a look at meditating videos online or download an app to help you with sleep techniques.

Good luck and try not to stress yourself out too much, you’ve got this!

Mother Goose x

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Education

"I'm so stressed about exams. How shall I revise and manage my time? I'm really struggling to work at home."

Thank you for your question!

Exam period can be a very stressful and overwhelming time, but there are lots of things you can do to manage your time, get organised, and look after yourself too. We have created a Daily Planner to help students get organised during exams, where you can balance your work and personal life! You can view this here

It’s important to try different ways of revising to find the technique that’s right for you. This could be using mind maps, cue cards, posters, or even using a whiteboard to write things out to your hearts content. Another good technique is to come up with your own questions so you can answer multiple tings about your work and get your friends and family to question you on these. If you are really struggling, you can contact the ARC or get in touch with the Learning and Development Centre at the library. They host a variety of workshops to help you with your revision. As for your study space, try and change it up every week so you’re not in the same room/environment. This change in scenery can actually beneficial and help you to revise better.

Make sure you schedule in several breaks throughout the day. Having breaks is so important, you need to allow your brain time to absorb the information and to stop you from burning out. Even if it’s just for 15 minutes every hour or so, get away from your working space and do something you enjoy. Also, ensure you’re eating well and getting enough sleep. Getting decent sleep is SO important, as sleep deprivation won’t do you any favours and will actually hinder your ability to retain information. If you’re struggling to fall asleep, have a look at meditating videos online or download an app to help you with sleep techniques.

Good luck and try not to stress yourself out too much, you’ve got this!

Mother Goose x

Finance

"I haven’t got much money for Christmas, what should I do?"

Thank you for your question!

This time of year is financially difficult for a lot of people, so please try not to feel isolated because you are not alone. If you are worried about not having enough funds to buy your family and friends Christmas presents, don’t be afraid to tell them. I'm sure they will be more than understanding. I know this might sound cliché, but it really is the thought that counts, so try and get in touch with your creative side and make some homemade gifts! You could do some baking and make Christmas cupcakes/cookies, try your luck with mason jar cocktail kits, or even make a little Christmas hamper! Just grab a shoebox and fill it with little things you think they might like, such as fluffy socks, facemasks, and chocolate! You can easily do this for under £10!

I’m sure they will be grateful for whatever you give them this Christmas, and they would rather you save your money than spend it on things for them that they may not even use!

Merry Christmas!

Mother Goose x

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Relationships

"I am in first year and struggling to make friends. What shall I do?"

Thank you for your question!

I am sorry to hear this, a lot of people are going through the same thing due to the pandemic, so you are not alone. But try not to worry! There are still ways you can meet new people, such as getting involved with the Students’ Union through the many clubs and societies that we have to offer. These are all student-run and most of them are still holding virtual events for their members, so don’t be afraid to get involved! You can view all the clubs and societies here

Another great way to meet new people is through joining the International Buddy Scheme, where we pair up current UK students with international students as a friendly contact & for English practice to help our international students get the most out of their time in the UK, as well as making some lifelong friendships with students from across the globe! You can find more information on this in the Volunteering section here

Don’t forget to try and talk to your course mates, and flat mates if you are living on campus! I’m sure a lot of them will be thinking the same thing, so don’t be afraid to reach out!

Mother Goose x

"How do I stop feeling jealous about my ex moving on and finding another boyfriend? Please help!"

Thank you for your question!

Break ups can be hard, especially when they are your first serious partner, and you have a real emotional connection to them. My advice would be to first block them on every social media app/website, as you will find yourself wanting to follow them and see what they are up to, especially what they are up to with their new partner, and what their new partner looks like, and so on. Therefore, removing that opportunity before you can even have the chance to start doing it is the best thing to do. You will feel a lot better for it, because if it’s not there to tempt you, then you will think about them less and less.

Time really is the best healer, so make sure you use this time to focus on yourself and take care of yourself. You could focus on some of your hobbies and interests, catch up with old friends and family, or even try journaling. Make a connection to something else that is a bit safer whilst you heal. You should be your main priority, not your ex, and not finding a new relationship to jump right into straight after. Trust me, give yourself some time to heal and deal with your emotions and feelings before you move on. If you jump into another relationship too soon, you may end up hurting yourself more and the other person. Give it time, things always work out in the end.

Mother Goose x

"My flatmates are so messy and dirty. They leave dishes all stacked up in the sink, a dirty floor and are so loud. What shall I do? I've had enough of them!"

Thank you for your question!

I feel you on this, I see myself as a very tidy person and when this is challenged it affects me more than it should. Don’t be afraid to talk to them, either over text or in person, and express how you feel about the situation. It may be better to talk to them in person as things can often be miscommunicated over text. Explain to them that you’d appreciate it if they clean up after themselves a bit more as it is shared accommodation, and you have every right to a clean and tidy space. Don’t let them take advantage of you if you clean up after them, because it isn’t fair, and they shouldn’t expect you to do that for them.

From past experience, I don’t regret talking to my flatmates about this issue, because they understood how I was feeling, and things changed for the better. They listened to me and started cleaning up a bit more. Things still may not be up to your standard, however it will be better than it was and compromising is better than nothing. This goes for the loudness as well, all you need to do is ask and hopefully they will listen. You could even discuss the possibility of making a cleaning rota, so it is an equal effort put in to keeping the flat tidy.

If things get out of hand, don’t be afraid to make an anonymous complaint to the reception of your accommodation or your landlord. Hopefully they will be able to do something about the situation without you being in the middle of it.

Communication is key!

Mother Goose x

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